I never cease to feel incredulous when I see how we create our own problems, especially when I catch myself doing it.
There was something I wanted to do but I kept stopping myself because I was feeling negative. Just couldn’t get in the mood. Finally I decided to do it anyway and afterwards I thought to myself, “that wasn’t so bad. Perhaps I even slightly enjoyed it.” So why the resistance?
The way to deal with your resistance, I have learned, is not to fight it but to acknowledge it and then choose acceptance. That way your resistance becomes your best friend because, when you realise what you are doing, the resistance acts like a huge signpost saying, “focus your attention here.” Many a time I have hesitated because of fear, realised what I was doing and then “felt the fear and done it anyway” and afterwards asked myself, “what was all the fuss about? It wasn’t so scary after all.”
In case of misunderstanding, let’s quickly get this in proportion. I’m not suggesting when you stand at the top of the cliff at Beachy Head contemplating suicide you should “feel the fear and do it anyway.” I’m referring to those times when you realise that unreasonable or unjustifiable fear is stopping you from taking an action that will make your life better.